Mastering the Little Things
Do you ever approach your day wondering, how am I doing this, as if you were reflecting on your life?
I’ll tell you how – you got good at mastering the little things. What to eat, what to wear…the things that are repeated over and over again from one day to the next. By getting good at all the seemingly insignificant tasks in your day, you’ve brought yourself to a place where you feel you are both conquering the world as well as drowning in it.
On several occasions, I’ve asked myself that same question. In those moments I had thought to master something new, so I could extract myself from the feeling of overload and care less about “dropping the ball”. Can you relate?
I find that entrepreneurs are most guilty of taking on too much all at once. It’s because we are creative individuals with odd combinations of tenacity, competence, and vision. A dangerous grouping of characteristics, if you were to ask anyone whose job it is to support such a person.
Sure, you can make decisions about what to eat, after getting up each morning. Ideally though, NOT thinking is the thing to do when you’re trying to conserve energy and save time for obstacles that demand a lot from you. I’m sorry to say the tactic of mastering the little things only works for a short time before you’ve reached burnout. I’ve experienced this but have witnessed the conundrum even more, and more times than I could count – it comes with the Virtual Assistant/Biz Owner territory. I don’t want that for myself (burn out), nor do I, for any other hard-working individual. So, I’ve been doing some critical thinking…
The most successful people I’ve ever met or seen don’t ever have to wonder how they’re living the great big, successful, easy life because they ALWAYS have someone to thank for it.
I certainly wouldn’t be doing as well as I am, if it weren’t for some very specific people. Despite all their effort as well as my own though, self-defeating behavior that goes unchecked can cause a person to suffer rather than succeed.
A person who relies too heavily on their own skillset, and is unwilling to hold space for another individual’s talent will take twice as long to reach their goals. We give ourselves excuses like “It won’t get done the right way” or “I don’t want to spend the money” and “it’s quicker if I do it myself” blah blah blah, whatever the excuse is to keep a position in Command Central, so to speak – it works against us.
You don’t have to be a sour personality – attention-grabbing or money-hungry or starved for affection, to be at your own detriment. You can be a deeply kind and thoughtful person who’s just unwilling to ask for or accept the help you need. Could be that you don’t like change, you have misplaced pride, or find trusting difficult. We all experience these challenges from time to time, so don’t beat yourself up over them. There’s a lot we can do to correct our own self-defeating behaviors. For me, it’s a little thing called “letting go” for long enough to know when it’s the right time to ask for help. I know, it’s cliche. The freedom, success, and camaraderie are worth the effort though. Sharing the captain’s chair with people who are equally talented and have been working to master little things in their own lives prove to hold those benefits and more.
Life is full of choices. Choosing when to give and when to receive can be hard. Harder still may be determining when it’s a good time to ask for someone’s help.
Keep checking in on yourself. Watch for “ego”. Watch for isolation. Watch for distrust. Watch for Fear. Watch for pride. Watch for anything that may prevent you from celebrating successes with awesome individuals. When you find something, think of it as a happiness gremlin and kick it in the butt by having a chat with another human being instead.
When you’re ready for more freedom, success, and camaraderie in your business and want talented admins on your team, contact us. You can put “I found a gremlin” in the subject line, and we’ll have a good laugh.